“The grass is always greener on the other side.”
I’ve realized that it is often because you buy into the deception that the grass is greener on the other side that you never began to look at your own lawn. You see other people’s success and begin to reason with yourself why they deserve it, but you don’t. You see other people’s forward progress and console yourself with how much more gifted they are or how better their situations are than yours.Have you ever thought this in one way or another? Don’t feel bad about yourself, you’re not alone. I’ve struggled with this so many times that it is sickening.
While many of us have fallen prey to this trap you have to refuse to remain there. Let me encourage you with a quick shot of truth, “The grass is greener where you water it and take care of it.”
That’s right. You have to refuse to keep looking at the “lawns”:jobs, successes, relationships, promotions, ministries, degrees, or accomplishments of others and sighing to yourself, “The grass is always greener on the other side.” You have to look at your grass and get a grand vision of greenery for yourself!
In one of his latest books, The 15 Invaluable Laws of Growth: Live Them and Reach Your Potential, leadership expert John C. Maxwell shares how comparing yourself to others is one of the greatest obstacles to your growth and success. Many believe comparing yourself to others actually stirs you on to move forward faster, but most times it only leaves you discouraged, disillusioned, and dejected.
Maxwell encourages you to stop comparing yourself to others and start comparing yourself to yourself! What a concept.
As you begin to set your goals, pursue your dreams, and move forward in different areas of your life look at where you were a year ago, a month ago or a week ago. Are your growing? Have your moved forward?
If you have moved even the slightest bit foward then celebrate! Progress is happening. If you haven’t then you need to intentionally get back at it.
Don’t look at other’s success and say “I should be where they are.” You will only be where you have set yourself up to be. There is no should, there just is. Your decisions you made yesterday got you to where you are today. And, the decisions you are making today are going to get you where you will be tomorrow.
Determine that you are going to do better for youself, but not because other people around you are soaring ahead. Do it because God has better for you and you want better.
Yes, you can allow their progress to encourage you, challenge you and motivate you. But, don’t think you have to do what they are doing to get where YOU want to go.
Begin to water your grass today. How green do YOU want your grass to be? How do YOU want your grass to look when it is trimmed? YOU are not your neighbor and your neighbor is not you. It does not matter what his or her grass looks like, the questions you need to ask yourself are, “Is my grass green? And, what am I doing to care for it?”
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How has comparing yourself to other been destructive in your life? Have you learned to identify your progress, rejoice in it, and use it as motivation to move you forward?
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