Relationships are work, they are an investment. This means they take time to build, effort to grow, and protection to thrive.
It’s funny how we look at our jobs, schooling, a career, or the pursuit of a dream as needing intentional effort, but assume our relationships will just happen. No healthy, thriving relationship just happens, it is invested in. Read More →
Have you ever felt overwhelmed thinking about all the things you could be, should be, or are not doing? Isn’t it one of the most oppressive feelings to be weighed down by?
Let me set you free right now. You can’t do everything. And, you are not meant too!
I know it’s hard to embrace. You look at your life and your mind swirls with all the things you can be doing right now or later. You look at your schedule trying to find out how you can squeeze the most out of every second of your 24 hour gift from God. You constantly wish you had more hours in a day, but you know very well if you did you would fill those hours with a bunch of others activities.
You feel busy, but not productive. You feel tired active, but not effective. You feel tired, but not accomplished. Read More →
As long as you try to be someone else you will be miserable.
There is nothing wrong with looking at the lives of others and admiring where they are, upholding their characteristics, or affirming their achievements. But, the minute you allow thoughts of comparison to overtake you the shadow of self destruction will seek to overtake you. You were never meant to be them and they were never meant to be you. Read More →
When you walk into a room of people what do you expect to experience? In most cases, you will find what you are looking for.
I often talk with people who enter into rooms with unfamiliar people already preparing themselves to be rejected so they emotionally cower. As a result they enter the room timid, insecure, and hesitant. Or, they enter the arrogant, boastful, and self centered in order to compensate for their fear of being rejected.
When you walk into a room with unfamiliar people you need to know who you are. Refuse to allow the feelings, thoughts, or reactions of people to determine who you will be around them. Of course, you want to be sensitive to your surroundings. Yes, you want to walk humbly and not think to highly of yourself. But, you never, ever, ever, are called to cower before anyone. Read More →
In the natural this doesn’t really make sense. I know what you’re thinking, larger debts have larger interest rates so shouldn’t you take out the larger ones first? Theoretically, yes. Practically, no. Why? Read More →
What a vicious, debilitating, imprisoning, and deceptive thought.
I’ve realized that it is often because you buy into the deception that the grass is greener on the other side that you never began to look at your own lawn. You see other people’s success and begin to reason with yourself why they deserve it, but you don’t. You see other people’s forward progress and console yourself with how much more gifted they are or how better their situations are than yours.Have you ever thought this in one way or another? Don’t feel bad about yourself, you’re not alone. I’ve struggled with this so many times that it is sickening.
While many of us have fallen prey to this trap you have to refuse to remain there. Let me encourage you with a quick shot of truth, “The grass is greener where you water it and take care of it.” Read More →
Husbands, do you realize your wife is a sign of the favor of God over your life?
I know what you’re thinking, “If she was a sign of favor then why do we argue so much? Why does it seem like we clash all the time? Why are our finances crazy? And, why does it seem like so much work?”
Marriage is work, but it is one of the greatest gifts God has ever given to humanity. But, even more specifically a wife is one of God’s greatest gifts to man. Proverbs 18:22 say, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the Lord.” Read More →
Leadership is not so much about your success as it is about the success of others. Great leaders are not only able to identify great things in others, but they are skillful in the art of drawing greatness out of them. They are tactful, intentional, and strategic in recognizing and cultivating the seeds of greatness in others.
Anyone can rise to the top, but not anyone can bring others with them. It’s often asked, “How many people did you have to step on to get where you are?” But for a great leader this question is appalling. For her the question is always, “How many people helped you to get where you are and how many did you bring with you?” Read More →